Friday, 2 November 2012
Although I am not a large fan of hip hop, I do follow the American version of this show which is usually backed by VH1 and I do find it entertaining on occasion. Crazy but nonetheless entertaining. So why would I put so much on this UK version that is still in its trial phases, well, my cousins tell me there is going to be a Zimbabwean lady in the show.
So stay tuned, I will try my best to follow the show itself and get more details on our Zimbabwean star to keep you posted.
Support the movement
Tuesday, 30 October 2012
People always ask the question what do music artists do to influence and inspire young people..............
IN-ESSENCE are organising a LIVE MUSIC EVENT called "Promoting positivity through Music" this will promote positivity by bringing together like minded artists, performers, entertainers who through music will raise awareness to empower and inspire generations to help communities, countries and the world to be a better place. This event will be held at the Africa Centre in Covent garden, London, England on Saturday 17th November 2012. It will bring together like minded artists and musicians who are loaded with positivity to spread the word and engage people. We find that there is not many people of our generation doing something collectively to raise awareness through music as music is very powerful.
Be there! I guarantee you this will be an epic night
Call me biased but I do feel that Maita is by far one of the leading and best designers to yet come of Zim. She just doesn't fail to deliver. Absolutely loved her collection! Let me know what you think and by the way, I saved the best in my books for last. So as far as Zim Fashion Week 2012 is concerned, its a rap yo! Eager to see what next year has to offer because its only upwards and onward from here
Saturday, 27 October 2012
And the award for the most theatrical ensamble has to go to this lady Sabina. I keep wandering what inspired her to mix grass and clothe but, I love it none the less. Almost like eco-friendly meets vogue.. ZimVogue maybe ;D
Hope you liked it and feel free to pass your comments on your favourite designers.
Thursday, 25 October 2012
When I was in my late teens say seventeen or eighteen, I was introduced to this guy by a friend of man. He was big, charismatic, funny, drove nice cars but ultimately, a bad boy! He made his living off of 419 also known as fraudulent activities. At that age though I have to say, he was the guy. He used to come and pick me up from college in one sports car or another, take me shopping on occasion and every guy respected him (out of fear of course). At ne point he was even given me money to spend or keep for him just in case...
I look back now and think yes, every girl wants a bad boy at one point in her life but what the hell was I thinking and what do we say about the ladies in their mid to late twenties that are still dating this kind of bad boy. Is it the prestige they want, the "lavish" lifestyle (i say lavish because if he is hood there is only so much ghetto fabulous he can give you which can be perceived as lavish), the money, or the man they want?
I recently bumped into my former teenage fling and my oh my was it insightful. He describes his occupation as a 9-5 job. Has even bought a house and started two businesses from this very occupation and says he has further dreams to achieve whilst in this occupation. At one point in the conversation he even said to me "times are hard you know and its a double dip recession" I laughed uncontrollably thinking what do you know about recession if your subsistence is coming from people that are actually going through hard times. After bumping into him I was left in a very reflective mood. What of this woman that currently dates this man and says she is in a "serious" relationship.
Correct me if I am wrong but when a woman enters a relationship with a man, she must see qualities and attributes in him that she admires and would ultimately want to instill in her children. So she is looking for love, kindness, loyalty, honesty, integrity, ambition and hard work to name a few. So how does a woman end up with a man that is the very opposite of that? A man who makes his living by stealing from someone elses pocket which is what fraud/theft is essentially, has no moral compass. Or does he? For the purpose of this article I am not going to indulge in cliche and should i say flimsy excuses of 'he had a hard life and that was his way out and he has made something of himself', no, I will just focus on the intent. He takes from someone elses pocket so he is a thief. He does it repeatedly so he is greedy. He does not explore alternative methods of funding himself so he is lazy. He makes numerous enemies by cheating people through the processes so he becomes ruthless, careless and money hungry. By dating you which ultimately makes you an accomplice to his crimes he becomes selfish and many other other things... So why are you with him?
Is it the money or the prestige Personally my moral compass is in the right direction so I feel, and so it is impossible for me to endorse such behavior in a man let alone find myself in a relationship with him. Apart from the fact that I will not be able to tell my mother of his occupation and stand beside this man proud to be his woman, I am too damn shallow and out right embarrassed to be part of a police raid. That is my worst nightmare I shame too easy for such! Can you imagine it? The ground can just swallow me now from the thought of it. But more importantly, I will find it near enough impossible to bring my relationship before God and pray for any blessings upon him besides God protect him.
When a woman loves as in really loves, she wants to bring out the best in a man. She wants to love him as and, more than she loves herself. She wants the best for him. By endorsing a life funded by 419 are you really loving this man? If you loved him you would want him to do right by himself, right by you,right by your future and right by God...
Perhaps its too broad a question and I tire of writing butt if you really love this man, then why are you with him presently? And if you are not forcing that change then are you passing time or one day hoping he will change or this is the future you are investing in?
Food for thought
Wednesday, 24 October 2012
As to be expected there was some pieces that where showcased designed by the up and coming young designers of Zimbabwe. Below are my favorite pieces..
I saved the best for last. My favorite among these young talents had to be Kim. I would so adorn myself with her garments!
Monday, 22 October 2012
Being on the dating circuit has opened my eyes to a lot. Now I know how I like to meet guys and the sort of guys I like but i cannot say that finding this out has been easy. There are some guys who when getting to know you, are extremely eager to get on your good side they will go out of their way to sell you a 'Lifestyle'.
Now if you know me, you will know that I have an affinity to nice things. So yes I like to be wined and dinned in rated restaurants and whisked here and there however, all these things I dont mind them being a 'treat'. An extended bonus to being in a guys company (not to say I dont treat myself like wise before im issued the gold digger card -_-). So anyway the fancy lifestyle from a guy I dont mind it given, it is his every day living. A common trend amongst men of today is to stunt! When courting a woman guys have become comfortable deluding the girl with a certain high flying lifestyle as if to say it is what the woman is looking for, the lifestyle not the man -_- . The older I get the more absurd it just seems. If you can afford to take me Nobu, Hakkasan and the Roof Gardens twice or thrice a month because it is part of your routine, then by all means, lets! Who am I to turn down Nobu. However if your regular joint is Busaba's or even Nandos and you decide to take me Hakkasan in the name of stunting early stages of dating, then my friend you berra just maintain!
Dont sell a lifestyle you cant maintain to a woman. By nature we are receptive to these things and will thus become expectant of that which you have shown us. Women really do function on the saying 'start as you mean to go'. W etake that sentence very literally. So we therefore become expectant of what you show us initially and because we become expectant and you dont deliver, we become frustrated and so do you and eventually hey presto that term "gold digger" gets flung loosely. Be real and show a woman who you really are and it doesn't have to be through your wallet.
PS: If you happen to like dating a woman who likes to maintain herself or is deemed high maintenance then I can possible empathize with why you may want to do the Nobu's etc. But if you cant afford Nobu and she can, my friend... respect yourself! Dont break your bank trying to impress. Just date the one who is in the same financial cycle as yourself.